Have you ever met someone who had everything and always got everything he or she wanted? If you said yes, then I’m pretty sure you are telling a white lie; but if you affirmed that you’ve met someone who has almost everything and always got most of everything, then I’ll be more inclined to your answer, so will most people be. The point here is that, there are those who have almost everything they’ve ever wanted in life: intelligence, riches, influence, accolades, power, fame, amongst many others. Hey! Don’t get it twisted, getting most of everything could be awesome. For some people, all they ever want is to become somebody of great repute in life, some even want to become lawyers, and in the end they achieve this. You may be wondering, what’s the fuss, if someone has got most of everything he or she ever wanted? The point here is the negative effect of such fate, if absolute caution isn’t put in place.
If a person is not careful, there is usually one main pathological syndrome that affects people who get most of the things they ever wanted; this powerful ill feeling could lead to them lacking everything they’ve ever wanted. This syndrome is called PRIDE.
Before I begin, let’s take a quick insight to what pride is. It could be described as an inordinate self-esteem; an unreasonable conceit of one’s own superiority in talents, beauty, wealth, rank etc., which manifests itself in lofty airs, distance, reserve and often contempt of others.
Also, a sense of one’s own worth, and abhorrence of what is beneath or unworthy of one; lofty self-respect; noble self-esteem; elevation of character; dignified bearing; proud delight; in a good sense.
As a Lawyer and a person of human nature (usually most people don’t think a lawyer could be both, that’s a wrong notion), you should learn to control your emotion of pride. There’s usually a misconception about confidence and pride, if you’re confident it’s not wrong because that’s a hallmark of the profession; but when one gets overconfident it is tantamount to pride, and the only thing such an individual has done, is dig his own ditch.
Some people do not usually know when the emotion of pride has come over them, I do not blame them, the human nature is fallible. But I’ll show you 5 ways you could be proud, that you never imagined that you were once proud or that you are still proud.
1) You consider everything your colleagues say as nonsense, and you believe yours is more valid. (You know more by learning from others)
2) You feel you are the best because of your current grade point, thereby thinking your future is the brightest. (No position is eternal)
3) You believe because you earn more than the judge, you have the same power as the judge. What a lie! To get more exposition on this point, check Be Silent When The Gavel Sounds!
4) You think that because you determine the fees of your employees, you are entitled to bully them. (Once they quit on such grounds, you’re a bad leader)
5) Maybe you’re called the best trial lawyer for now, you have the whole world; take it easy, another one is being groomed in law school.
The list is not exhaustive, there are many more ways you could be proud. If as a Lawyer you keep up with the negative aspects of been ‘proud’ you’ll quickly fade. Don’t feel as if you know all, or think you’re the best. Remember everything on planet Earth is vanity, but be the best lawyer in humility!